Tuesday, August 31, I said goodbye to a dear friend, a confidant, a therapist and my happy place.
I was a horse crazy kid, and grew up to be a horse crazy adult. Finally, at the age of 34, it was time to get my first horse.
I met My Boy on a cold winter’s day. He was so beautiful. He took my breath away. We spent some time together, and I decided he was the one. He was part Clydesdale, part Morgan and part Arab. Some of my favourite breeds of horses combined to make a strong, dashing and personable horse.
I felt like the luckiest person in the world.
My Boy had been the “extra” horse for his owners for years. He would go for months without being ridden. He wasn’t used to being in cross ties, standing for grooming, or being asked to do much of anything. He had the bad habit of whacking people with his head, sending them flying across the barn. He would kick out at me, and rear up in the barn. He was strong and stubborn. I came home from the barn daily planning on returning him at the end of my 30 day trial. He was, quite frankly, a jackass.
On day 28, we had a breakthrough. He started to listen, and I started to love him.
During the spring and summer, we worked together and accomplished much. He no longer bolted for the barn at full speed when out for a ride. He rarely tried to buck me off. And he started to trust that I would not bring him through alligator infested swamps, and that the puddles I asked him to cross were, in fact, just puddles. He even got so brave that he would walk past tractors and other farm equipment without trembling with fear.
In the fall, My Boy started to stumble. Then he started to fall. Then one day he wouldn’t come out of his stall at all. It was discovered that he had bone spurs on the inside of his vertebra in his neck. These bony growths were putting pressure on his spinal cord, causing weakness and partial paralysis in his back end.
The prognosis was not good. He would never be “cured” of this. There was no hope of him ever getting better. However, there was the option of treating his symptoms, and hoping that it managed his symptoms well enough for him to be comfortable.
We decided to treat his symptoms. It involved steroid injections deep into his neck, right on the vertebra that had the spurs, as well as other alternative injections and herbal supplements.
The first two rounds of treatments worked well, alleviating his symptoms, bringing immediate comfort. Within a month after treatment, he was sound and rideable again. After his second treatment, I moved him to a fancy barn, where he received more turnout and more care than at our previous barn. The hope was that the treatments would last 6 months. They lasted 7 weeks, then 4 months.
We tried a third round of treatment. Unfortunately, that treatment did not work. His symptoms continued to worsen.
It became increasingly obvious that My Boy was failing. He was stiff and stumbly in the mornings. He had scrapes from falling down. He didn’t like me lifting his feet. He became quite grumpy with his pasture buddy. He had trouble turning around, and he struggled to get up from lying down. He was hurting.
It was time.
My Boy spent his last morning having grass and making me laugh through my tears. He was unsnapping the pockets on my shorts, and unzipping my camera case. He ate sweet grain, and munched carrots. He gave me lots of hugs, and let me cry behind his ears.
I miss him so much. His therapist skills got me through many of life’s ups and downs. He was a great listener and could keep even the juiciest secrets. My first horse wasn’t with me for long, only 18 months, but it was an honour to have had that time with him.
My Boy – The best gift ever.